Well, I'm still trying to figure whether I think this is to personal or not.
But what are your views on internet dating. It's like a huge thing in Holland. More and more people try to find the love of their life on the WWW.
About a year ago somebody convinced me to give it a try.

And boy, did that suck.
It seems like I only attract creeps and losers. It even turns out my neighbor down the hall googled me after he saw my face on a site and then knew everything about me. Even where I worked. And he memorized my profile by heart. That seriously freaked me out. Yes, I know, maybe I should not have put my pic on the web. But trust me. I hardly ever pm a guy if I don’t know what he looks like. You can say it’s not so, but e-mailing somebody back always depends on the face. I know it’s superficial. But it’s the only thing you can go on. Unless it’s a really, really funny mail. I usually respond to those as well.

So far I've been on a couple of dates. Some of them OK and some of them waaaay too weird. Especially this guy who wanted to read my hand and kept asking me if I wanted to have children and what views I had on living together. EXCUSE ME!!!!!!!!!!! I just met ya. You freak!!

Anyway, I'm so done with it know. I think it's impossible to find somebody through dating sites. You can't feel a connection when your just e-mailing. I think. I mean, falling in love still has to do a lot with being physically attracted to each other.

So, tell me. What do you guys think about this.

Well, I am only 13 so I do not think I can give much oppinion of importance, but I'll give my two cents anyways. I think online dating is a way to meet people based on personality not just appearance. It also can be very harmful. You could be talking to anyone and they could be lying about anything and I do think it is a bit less personal, but it does work for some people, and you got to be careful who you trust.

my dad and stepmom met on the internet 5 years ago. they got married 2 years ago and are expecting a baby in June. so i guess you could say it worked. lol

#haha# its not funny but your way of writing is most entertaining Miranda. ><()

Amanda I think you’re in the perfect position to answer, your just starting out online and getting to know what its like. So your perspective is so important as you in part represent all the young people today. It’s good to see you being wise with things like this.

Katie thats great, your be a sister soon! (woW>

Yeah I would agree with that. Over time on the Dom boards I feel like I got to know a lot of you and that’s always a nice feeling. I suppose there is nothing to stop you lying about who you are, but I'd like to think you can be yourself here and not have to hide behind a mask.

As for internet dating. I guess that’s a little different, as both parties know your going to meet up (maybe) so you might bend the truth a little. BUT then again I would image that most people are being real and want to find that special person or friendship and I don’t think that’s bad at all.

It’s just the bad experience and stereotypes linked with dating online that puts people off, I think I would be very coy about doing it. Although there are people I talk to and think I could trust them. So maybe if you spend long enough you get to know the person and be part of there life even though you have never spoken face to face.

i know! i cant wait (Rolly) im the youngest, so this will be a first.

Sometimes I wish I had been older than my youngest brother then I would have had more big brother time. If that makes sense, but now I dont think I could cope with all the late nights and screaming.


><() good luck with that (Winker)

I dont think I would ever try internet dating, specially with all those people out there, you never know who, or what you'll find.

Ill stick to meeting people in person, at the bar, mall, or where ever.

I should try it!!! OR NOT!!!!!!!! No seriously, I dunno?..........?

Internet dating can be extremely dangerous, there are people out there who join these 'net dating agencies, and lie about everything to get to know unsuspecting people and then hurt them, but there are also a lot of honest people out there just trying to find some-one special. I don't know of anyone who has used a 'net dating service, but I do know of several couples who met on forums, at least 2 of those couples are now married, and when they first met online they lived thousands of miles apart.

My only thought on all this is if you're going to do it, be careful!

I was on a point where I would like to try. But I'm to scared to do it I think, like meeting guys 'live' better...

I have done it once, internet-dating....
Not a good experience and i don't feel like talking about it anymore, that chapter is closed now. I only want to say that if you continue doing this, please be carefull!

Nah, I'm not doing it anymore. I'm still on a site but don't get any response anymore. Probably cuz I changed my profile. I'm curently posing as Tigerlily the hobbit girl. #haha#
I just wanted to see how many guys with a sense of humor were on the site. Well I can tell you: NONE.
Nobody got it. Too bad. It would have been fun to date Pippin or Merry.

For those of you who are thinking about it.
When you first meet a guy, make sure it's in a public place. Don't go anywhere remote with him and preferably DO NOT get in his car.
You pick the spot. Try to go to a place where you feel comfortable.

I have *kinda* dated on the 'net before, but it was just flirting, fun, nothing serious. I never met any of them in person. I was about 14/15 when I did all that and I'm 18 now. Now the thought of dating someone online freaks me out! I talked to some guys on the 'net like a year ago but I got all paranoid when they asked me questions. They always liked to get a little too personal too so I just stopped doing it altogether, I always imagined they'd be this 50 year old perverted creep behind the monitor!

I wouldn't like to meet a boyfriend on the 'net anyway, I think it's less romantic. I prefer being face-to-face with them.

I've never actually dated on the net...but I have a lot of friends who I have met on the internet...they are both boys and girls.....but I usually know them via forums...I don't know..but until now I haven't ever met someone who turned out completly different from what he said..

Usually I want to see him or her on the webcam first...so I know he or she sends the right pictures of 'himself' and not just pictures of a friend or so....

I think internet dating can be very dangerous..I remember a case of a Brittish Girl who met an American guy..and he kidnapped her..It was on the news here in Holland because they thought he took her to Holland....it turned out he took her to Germany....the guy got arrested...

I only meet with internet people if I have people with me....

Well, like with anything else, there are pros and cons. On the one side, Internet dating would help you get to know them somewhat before you meet and it wouldn't be based on appearance. BUT... on the other hand, they could be lying to you.
The main thing is you need to be carefull. There are some creepy jerks out there, believe me. There are also nice people.
Bad Side: I met a guy over the internet and thought that I had gotten to know him and invested my feelings in him. He was going to kill himself, but I spent 8 hours talking to him and he finally decided not to. He told me that he loved me and was being really sweet. Then a few days later, he started acting like a jerk and calling me a bitch even though all I had done to him is try to be a friend to him! Now he totally ignores me and I later found out that he has and had a girlfriend!
Good Side: My dad's cousin met her boyfriend online and they get along fine. He has come to visit her and shehas gone to visit him. They really love each other and he's a really nice guy!
Conclusion: It works for some people, but not for others. The main point is BE CAREFUL!!!

I am now involved with a guy over the internet. We'll see how it goes!

How are things going?

For me I think I like the one on one face to face dating, maybe online stuff when you have met the person like AIM or MSN but to go out with someone without ever hearing their voice or see there eyes move, its a little too strange for me.

I'm done with the internet dating buzz. I'm taking my hands off #haha#
Because in the end it is kinda weird to go out with a person you've never seen or talked to. Some people are competent with word but in real life they're nothing like you imagined.
But then again. All the people I've met here are exactly as wonderful as I thought they would be. Maybe it's just completely different when the prospect of love is involved.

That's a good point, I feel like I know most of you in a good way from reading all your posts, you dont feel that you have to prove something. Maybe when sex isnt invloved things get less complex or as you put it Miranda its to do with love.

Well, he broke up with me Friday night. He said that the distance was getting to him, but that he still loved me. I get the feeling that he is trying to protect me from something, I'm just not sure what.

That's a pity. :( but it sounds like a good mystery all the same. :hyper: Are you planing on trying to solve it, or just let him float away?

You ok with it all now or still upset? :hugy:

It still hurts. And everytime I talk to him, I feel like crying. I know that he still loves me. I'm just trying to be his friend right now because I'd rather have him as a friend than not have him at all. And if we're meant to be together, then sometime in the future we will come together and it will be alright. I'm holding on to that.

Hmmm... i kinda got a relationship over the internet now. But we didn't meet on the internet, we met in real life. But the problem is that he lives in New Zealand and I live in Germany, so that's quite a distance. We met when I was there on my students exchange and now there's no other chance for us than to talk over the internet. Because it's so so so expensive, none of us can afford going to the other country anytime soon. Plus the problem is that we both are still in school (he'll finish at the end of this year though) so... we cant just travel around the world whenever we want to :( So until we'll see each other again we'll have a relationship over the internet *shrugs*

Weeell but I had a rel. over the internet before - we met on the internet - and it sucked. Really it did. He was like.. having 5 other girlfriends at the same time, and i never knew and stuff. .. god it really sucked.

Well, I met another guy online, lol. We live in the same state, so we talk on the phone a lot. He's really sweet and I love him so much!!! He's 22 and his name is Britton. He said that he wants to marry me, so we'll see how it goes, lol.

I dont want to be funny or mean. But isnt that a bit creepy? he wants to marry you even though you have never met? :o I like the name Britton its unique :YES:

I have also tried internet dating. i was involved in a relationship for close to two yrs with a blokey i met on the internet. The relationship by now has ended due to reasons id prefer not to discuss. I have tried it once and i know now that i will never do that again. i didnt meet him through a dating site it was a chatroom that my m8 was on and i just went and started talking.

There are some very weird people online - i'll grant u that - but there are some cool peeps too!

:wave: :jay: :wave:

personally i wouldnt do internet dating...think its brings with it too much risk, and as cammers said there are some weird people online. but hey, thats just my opinion